Should you choose an engagement ring before proposing or pick one together?
Times are changing, and as a common life celebration, it’s to be expected that engagements and weddings change as part of this. Historically, it has been the groom’s job to propose, complete with a sparkly diamond ring. However, as modern relationships evolve and become more equal, it can be hard to know what protocol to follow with the engagement ring.
It can also be difficult to know whether to buy a ring before the proposal. After all, it’s a piece of jewellery that the receiver is likely to wear every day, and the pressure to choose something that they’ll like can add up. As a result, the percentage of couples choosing a ring together after the proposal has risen to 63%, according to a survey by One Poll. Ultimately, the person proposing is the one that makes this choice unless you openly discuss it as a couple. Today, let’s look at the different options available so that you can decide what is best for you.
Choosing a ring before proposing
If you’re looking to make a big impact with your proposal, including the ‘wow moment’ where you open a jewellery box to reveal a beautiful ring, then this is the right option for you.
This can also be a good option if you’re confident about the style of jewellery that your partner likes. Take a look in their jewellery collection for inspiration – do they like big stones, a trilogy ring setting, or colour? Are all their pieces a specific metal, or do they mix it up? You can also check with their family and friends, as your partner may have commented to them about rings they like, or even sent some screenshots. If you have a good relationship with someone close to your partner, you could even ask them to come ring shopping with you to give their opinion.
If your partner already wears rings, it may also be that you can borrow one to find out their ring size. If you plan to propose with an heirloom ring, however, you should check that it’s possible for the ring to be sized first, as this can depend on the metal used and the age of the ring.
Choosing a ring together after proposing
If you want to ensure that you get a ring that your partner is happy with, then it might be a good idea to choose a ring together after the proposal or even design a bespoke ring together.
Whilst you can just pop the question without any jewellery, perhaps consider a fun ring alternative, like an edible sweet ring, or a homemade ring made from ribbon or thread. This brings a lighthearted side to the proposal and also means that your partner knows that you are intending to get a ring, but want to choose it together. If you’re committed to the idea of jewellery, then you could consider a necklace or bracelet.
To sum up
Whichever route you choose, a proposal should be about you and your partner and what you want. This is a moment that you will remember forever, so take your time to consider what you feel will work best.
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